… and so, she decided to start living the life she’d imagined…

If you can. If you will. I want you to sit down and meditate on this following question:
Are YOU living YOUR life for you? 

…. heavy question huh? No worries, take as much time as you need and let that question sink in.

 This blog will be here when you return.

If the question to the answer is YES, I applaud you. Congratulations. You’re ahead of the game in some ways.

If your answer is No. Let’s talk. πŸ˜’

Don’t worry or beat yourself up for answering no. That was my answer for many years and I am still a work in progress …. this is a new way of life for me, so it’s taking some time of getting used to. 

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⚠ Caution and Whoa to the Philosophical Ones with the following arguments:

How can you live YOUR LIFE for YOU when you have children? 

How can you live your life for you when you are married?

How can you live your life for you as a Christian? Aren’t you supposed to be living your life for Jesus? 

You can never really live life for you because you are connected to others so therefore your life effects others so you can’t just live life for you.

For all the Socrates & Aristotles of the world …. I applaud your way of thinking πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

Great Job! ….. but there is a simple response to your way of thinking. 

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Here’s a simple response: You start living YOUR life for YOU when you start taking care of self and when you make a certain decision to live life for YOU. 

You have to learn to put your Happiness at the Center. Key word YOUR happiness. If your life decisions are for someone else, to appease someone else, to feel accepted by someone else …. then you definitely are not living your life for you.

You are a humble slave to living a life for others. 

For those who answered No. I pose the following question: Who are you living your life for? Are you happy living your life that way? 

I’m coming from a perspective of a person that battled with rejection for most of her life so she went through life appeasing and accommodating everyone else except herself so she would be accepted. 

Yep. I’m talking about no other than …. Drum Roll Please : ME 

I will admit. You have to sort through some stuff and find some kind of balance

BUT

If you solely base your decisions on the thoughts and approval of others you’ll never truly be happy. 😒

Everything boils down to one word:

Decision 

You can decide to live for you or you can decide to live for them. 

Whatever you decide should make you feel at peace within . If you have made a decision that has you internally in turmoil . .. then rethink that decision. True happiness can not co-exist with turmoil.

If you are in a place in your life when you feel conflicted I lovingly admonish you to look deep within yourself and the direction of your life and decide today to make a change and do something that goes towards your Happiness.

I write this with love. 

I write this with peace.

My #Joy and My #Happiness started to come when I chose to break free of living to appease others and decided to make decisions to live for Joyfully Chrissy Lee πŸŒ»πŸ’«

Signed with Joy,

Joyfully Chrissy Lee πŸŒ»πŸ’«

P.S. I will leave one of my favorite scriptures with you :

Matthew 6:33King James Version (KJV)

33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

All “these things” (mentioned above) include – Happiness and Joy πŸ˜‰

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Live Life with Joy – Joyfully Chrissy Lee 

Writing the Pain Away ….

Growing up, I was forced to suppress the bad emotions. I didn’t grow up in an environment where expressing sadness or hurt was the norm.

I was raised to walk with my head held high, smiling, giving the world the impression that all was well. 

In reality, all was not well ….. There were times I was hurting . . . πŸ˜”

But 

The world could not EVER know that.

After speaking and sharing this part of my life with others, I learned I was not alone. 

Many others were raised with the following concept to smile during the storms of life or to keep it to yourself bottled up inside. πŸ˜ŠπŸ™ƒπŸ™

In some ways this is unhealthy if not managed correctly.

🚩 Caution: Random Thought Time 🚩Listen – Although I blog about some deep stuff and share some aspects of self, I am very much private and do not like to give too much of self; but I have learned that sharing of self, my life and downfalls can be a testimony for another. 🚩Random Thought Time Ended 🚩

Pain, Hurt, Suffering and Sadness are all natural. 

Talking about Pain, Hurt, Suffering and Sadness are natural too.

Last week, I was studying and came across the following scripture: 

β€œI cannot keep from speaking. I must express my anguish. My bitter soul must complain.

Job 7:11 NLT

The scripture spoke loud in volumes to me. It speaks to Job 1. acknowledging his pain and 2. Speaking about it. Sometimes we belittle what we are going through. Pain, whether it’s physical, mental or emotional is natural but it doesn’t have to overtake you. 

If you are hurting, acknowledge it and acknowledge the source of it. 

If you are hurting, talk about your pain with God and you can also follow up with someone who you can trust and know is a safe place for your emotions. 

If you are hurting, learn to take authority over what you are experiencing 

And lastly, if you are hurting; learn to express. Emotions were made to flow … so let even the sad ones flow …. freely. 

Once Signed With Sorrow …. Now Signed with Joy,

Joyfully Chrissy Lee πŸ’«πŸŒ»

Prayer: Lord, I thank you for all of my emotions including sadness and pain. Today I ask you to help me cope when I am not feeling good. Place people in my life that will help me get through during my times of need. May you help me get through the Pain that I feel. May you teach me to learn and grow through my Pain. Lord, I need you now and I know there is healing of my mind and emotions through you. May my mind be at Peace. 

In Jesus name, Amen. πŸ™

Above It All …

This past October, I boarded a #jetBlue flight from J.F.K. to Buffalo Niagara Airport. The trip was very much last minute but very much needed. 

I needed to be in a place where I was “above it all;” and I mean literally “above it all.” What better place to be in, then a comfy and clean airplane. ✈

πŸ”˜ Now please note ….I am not purposely trying to plug jetBlue but I have and will always shout out any good company that promotes “Exceptional Customer Service.” πŸ”˜

BTW . .. I just rambled …. and I do tend to do that at times … but just stay with me as I wheel myself back in. lol πŸ™ƒβ˜Ί

As I was saying before, I went off on a  tangent😏 : I needed to be in a place where I was above “it” all. 

What was the “it?” 

Let me explain …. 

My life was on Turbo Mode. Everything was moving so fast and I was becoming inundated by some of the nonsense occurring in my life. I was trying to fix everything and trying to be everything for everyone. I was abusing myself emotionally and mentally. I was focusing on faults and flaws and in October 2016, I came to terms that I was putting myself in an unhealthy state of mind. 

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🚩 Note: If you can’t tell by my previous blogs; I am a work in progress and on an journey to obtaining “Inner #Peace .” I mean the real peace of God that surpasses all natural understanding.

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As I was in the air, riding through the clouds, I looked out the window, exhaled and thought “It feels so darn good to be above it all.” 

I stared down below. I couldn’t see what was below me because I was too far up but there was a lot of things below me:

My past struggles or mistakes 

Relationship Issues 

Financial Issues 

Stressors from Work 

Etc. Etc. Etc.

As I was up high, above it all …. I couldn’t focus on the things below me and out of my sight. I could only focus on what was before me. 

In this moment, God spoke to me.

“Yes Christina, you have flaws. Yes, you are going through some things. Everyone does, but you need to find #Joy in this moment and find the #Joyful things occurring in your life.

You need to be still and let me be God and work out some things for you.”

You see, everything boils down to perspective . I could have chosen to focus on the things below that I could not see or choose to focus on what was outside the small airplane window. 

Clouds …. β˜β˜πŸŒ«β›…β›…

Beautiful Clouds, which to me, symbolized #Peace , #Beauty and #Calmness 

I made the conscious decision to change my perspective and focus on the beauty in my life.

I think we all need to do that …. look away from our faults. Look away from our weaknesses. Look away from the Stressors in life.

 We become what we focus on. 

What are you choosing to focus on?

Let’s choose today, to refocus our lives. Let’s choose to change our perspective on things. Let’s choose today, to not get distracted by the negatives but get attracted to the positives in our life because if we look real good; we have many positive things to Thank God for. 

Lastly, let’s choose today to live and dwell “above it all.”

Don’t go through life being against yourself. Go through life being your best and biggest supporter. 

Signed with Joy,

Joyfully Chrissy Lee πŸ’«πŸŒ» 

 

. . . For the busy people.

Sunset

I find so much beauty in sunsets. I’m fascinated by the beautiful portrait that it paints. I love how the sky becomes a blend of colors that range from mixtures of yellow, orange, blue and even pink. I try to catch as many sunsets as I can, and when I do; I become still in amazement of the masterpiece being painted before my eyes. I can go on and on about the beauty of the sky but I want to focus on the beauty of  “stillness.”

How many of you take a moment to just be still?

There are two levels to the “Stillness” that I am referring to.

Level A: You can find an example in the picture above. I find moments to just sit still in silence and decompress from a long day. I let my thoughts flow and I embrace the moment. I may plan out some things in my head, replay my day or make a list of what I have to do for the next day. I may think about food πŸ˜‹πŸ‘…(mmmmmmm) and what I am going to cook later; re-evaluate some decisions I’ve made; ponder on some things to do with my son; etc. etc. etc. (You get the point ) The thought is to be still in the moment while your mind runs free ( if your busy-minded like me πŸ€”) or maybe you can sit still and not think about anything.

For those of you reading this that are speed readers and just skimmed through the 1st level …… ⚠ SLOW DOWN AND READ LEVEL B. 

Level B: This level takes some discipline but the rewards far outweigh the effort required to be this kind of disciplined. Psalm 46:10a reads Be Still & Know That I AM GOD. This is a brief scripture that I have read and said aloud several times but it is something that I am now just learning to apply to my life. This scripture is simply a call for us to stop what we are doing and acknowledge that God . . .  is God. Now I know you may be scratching your head right now so allow me to elaborate. You may ask “What should I stop doing?” and I am sooooooooooo happy you asked that question.

STOP WORRYING, STOP STRESSING, STOP BEING ANXIOUS, STOP TALKING, STOP COMPLAINING, STOP TRYING TO FIX THINGS, JUST STOP WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING . . . .

           … & SURRENDER ALL YOUR CARES TO GOD. 

Now listen . . . .I know this is all easier said than done. When I was introduced to this scripture through one of my friends; I gave her the same look you are giving this screen.πŸ˜’ I’m thinking the same thing you are thinking. Here were my thoughts:

Yeah  . . .  whatever . . . . being still is not going to get my bills paid. Being still is not going to heal me of ___________ (insert some bad health condition you have/had (God is a healer by the way) . Being still will not help me find love. Being still will not keep my boss from getting on my nerves. Being still don’t have my kids acting right. etc. etc. etc. You can insert whatever applies to you . . . . I am going to move on before I lose your attention. ☝ LOL Stay with me guys and gals.

What if I told you being still and acknowledging God is the very answer you need. I’ll help you out by giving you 4 steps:

Step 1: 🀐 Shut Up (Yes . . .  Some of you needed me to say that) & stop complaining about the issues in your life. (Ephesians 4:29)

Step 2: πŸ™ŒLet it Go – Relinquish your concerns of life/your issues. (Philippians 4:6)

Step 3: πŸ™Pray and have faith for what you prayed for. (Matthew 21:22)

Step 4: 😴πŸ˜ͺRest – Knowing that God WILL provide. (Philippians 4:19)

If you follow these steps (that is such a clichΓ© statement . . .  but it’s true) . . . . IF YOU FOLLOW THESE STEPS . . . . .with consistency . . .  You will have more peace in your life.

I kindly ask that you give God a chance. I kindly ask that you slow down in life.

I kindly ask that you try  . . .  just try to relinquish some . . . . just some of your worries.

I kindly ask YOU  . . . . to just STOP . . . . . AND

BE STILL.

SIGNED WITH JOY (In Stillness),

JOYFULLY CHRISSY LEE

My Very 1st True Love . . .

So let it be written

If I never have the opportunity to write again, I would probably go insane.

Writing is my means to everything. It is my freedom in a sometimes not so free world. It is my release when my mind is on overload. It is my expression when I need to express. It is my “common sense” when my spoken words and ideas do not make sense; and as clichΓ© as this next sentence is; Writing is my antidote when I’m debilitated by the struggles of life.

Most of the time, writing keeps me out of trouble….and it allows me to be silent (verbally) on matters while I write, express, analyze and put things in perspective.

There have been several joyous things that have occurred in my life. Not suprisingly, there have also been some grave things that have occurred in my life; but through it all, I would always feel better after putting my thoughts on paper . . .  well better yet on some electronic device (It’s 2016 for heaven’s sake LOL). So I would lovingly encourage you to do the same for no one but YOU.

Everything that occurs to you is not meant for you to share with everyone. Sharing, your thoughts, your experiences, your hurts and pains, your joys and happiness, etc. etc. & etc. gives people access to some parts of you that you very well may not have been ready to share: the parts that may leave you feeling uncovered and vulnerable; and that is okay as long as you share with someone you are fully comfortable being vulnerable around ( for many different reasons that I won’t list right now . . . (subscribe to my blog if you really want to know <—— Yes that was a cheesy plug ).

I’m back in my pensive mood  . . . . FEEL FREE TO CONTINUE READING BELOW.    πŸ™‚

This could also be applied to writing if you are writing and putting your expressions (feelings, thoughts, ideas)  in someone else’s hand, but I am referring and I am encouraging you to write . . .  for no one but YOU and GOD.

(CLARIFICATION) —> Sharing in any form to others is needed and not a bad thing . . .  but this post is about writing for YOU and God.  (CLARIFICATION ENDED)

Sometimes we have to learn to be silent to others BUT vocal to the one who created and understands US . . . and this my friend is not always easy to do. Restraining our mouths at times can be a wise, humble and a noble thing to do. (Read Psalms 17:28, Proverbs 10:19 & Psalms 4:4) Sometimes when we talk too much, express to0 much, speak out of emotion too much we do damage, the type that can be detrimental to ourselves.

When you write just to express your own thoughts and feelings, there is a much needed silent release that occurs. When you write just to express your own experiences you get to put things in perspective for you; you ponder and reflect. When you write to express whatever needs to be expressed, you give God “1st access” to you and whatever you express. This access that you give to God is a loud statement to him that you trust him with ALL of you. This access that you give to God lets him know that you do acknowledge him and you are including him in your life. (Read Proverbs 3:6a)

SO . . . .with love and of course with #JOY, I challenge you to write today.

Express. Pour out. Release . . .  and then be silent and wait for God to move, speak and work things out for you.

Today . . . . with love and with #Joy, I challenge you to “BE STILL” and know that “HE ABOVE” is God and will supply all of your needs. (Read Psalms 46:10 & Philippians 4:19)

Write for your freeness. Write for YOU. Write to Him!

Signed with JOY,

JOYFULLY CHRISSY LEE

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