… and so, she decided to start living the life she’d imagined…

If you can. If you will. I want you to sit down and meditate on this following question:
Are YOU living YOUR life for you? 

…. heavy question huh? No worries, take as much time as you need and let that question sink in.

 This blog will be here when you return.

If the question to the answer is YES, I applaud you. Congratulations. You’re ahead of the game in some ways.

If your answer is No. Let’s talk. ๐Ÿ˜’

Don’t worry or beat yourself up for answering no. That was my answer for many years and I am still a work in progress …. this is a new way of life for me, so it’s taking some time of getting used to. 

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โš  Caution and Whoa to the Philosophical Ones with the following arguments:

How can you live YOUR LIFE for YOU when you have children? 

How can you live your life for you when you are married?

How can you live your life for you as a Christian? Aren’t you supposed to be living your life for Jesus? 

You can never really live life for you because you are connected to others so therefore your life effects others so you can’t just live life for you.

For all the Socrates & Aristotles of the world …. I applaud your way of thinking ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

Great Job! ….. but there is a simple response to your way of thinking. 

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Here’s a simple response: You start living YOUR life for YOU when you start taking care of self and when you make a certain decision to live life for YOU. 

You have to learn to put your Happiness at the Center. Key word YOUR happiness. If your life decisions are for someone else, to appease someone else, to feel accepted by someone else …. then you definitely are not living your life for you.

You are a humble slave to living a life for others. 

For those who answered No. I pose the following question: Who are you living your life for? Are you happy living your life that way? 

I’m coming from a perspective of a person that battled with rejection for most of her life so she went through life appeasing and accommodating everyone else except herself so she would be accepted. 

Yep. I’m talking about no other than …. Drum Roll Please : ME 

I will admit. You have to sort through some stuff and find some kind of balance

BUT

If you solely base your decisions on the thoughts and approval of others you’ll never truly be happy. ๐Ÿ˜ข

Everything boils down to one word:

Decision 

You can decide to live for you or you can decide to live for them. 

Whatever you decide should make you feel at peace within . If you have made a decision that has you internally in turmoil . .. then rethink that decision. True happiness can not co-exist with turmoil.

If you are in a place in your life when you feel conflicted I lovingly admonish you to look deep within yourself and the direction of your life and decide today to make a change and do something that goes towards your Happiness.

I write this with love. 

I write this with peace.

My #Joy and My #Happiness started to come when I chose to break free of living to appease others and decided to make decisions to live for Joyfully Chrissy Lee ๐ŸŒป๐Ÿ’ซ

Signed with Joy,

Joyfully Chrissy Lee ๐ŸŒป๐Ÿ’ซ

P.S. I will leave one of my favorite scriptures with you :

Matthew 6:33King James Version (KJV)

33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

All “these things” (mentioned above) include – Happiness and Joy ๐Ÿ˜‰

๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒปMessage from your fellow Blogger (Me ๐Ÿ˜Š)

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Live Life with Joy – Joyfully Chrissy Lee 

Flawedย 

I never want to be the kind of Christian who portrays themselves as perfect. 

I have several flaws, I struggle daily …. bottom line, that why I need Jesus. 

In my Christian walk, I have come across some flawed individuals. The ones who have ministered to me the most are ones who have presented themselves naked, flaws and all. They have shared some real personal stuff, bared their chest and still very much have a bonified relationship with Christ.

In my Christian walk, I look to do the same. It is a struggle at times because I was raised to keep my business to myself; raised to be as private as can be. This along with past hurts, caused me to be very guarded. 

But

I have learned that there can be a blessing in sharing. Our lives, downfalls, struggles and all can be a testimony for others.

Our lives, downfalls and struggles provide life lessons to ourselves and others. 

I’ve shared in my past blogs that I had been my own worst enemy for many years. You guys have no idea how badly I used to beat up on myself for past mistakes. I was in a emotionally abusive relationship with self, which was what had led me to depression but by the Grace of God, I am delivered and healed. 

Can someone say “Hallelujah &Amen!” LOL ๐Ÿ™Œ (Praise Break ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ)

In life …. in this Christian walk, we will be tested and tempted by the enemy. 

In life …. in this Christian walk, we may yield to struggles and temptations. 

We may hurt others including ourselves in the midst of. ๐Ÿ˜”

…. If you yield to temptations; I lovingly admonish you to seek Forgiveness from God but also forgive yourself. 

Do not and I repeat Do NOT live life with regrets. 

We are all flawed in ways and no one is sinless. 

Some of us do a heck of a job putting on the nice cloak of being or should I say portraying a “Righteous Christian,” that never curses, drinks, watches pornography, smokes, judges, lies, had immoral sex, steals, gossips …. shall I continue?

I know that was a lot to swallow so I’ll pause so you can digest. 

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The items listed above are not okay and shouldn’t be condoned but I’ve found that in my journey of Christianity, those who were going through, were a little messy or hurting ministered to me greatly and the fact that they grew or learned from their downfalls pierced me more. 

I was moved how they openly shared about their hurts and some repeated failures. 

It made me say “Wow, they been through some stuff but are still holding on!”

I’m here to tell you, I’ve been through some stuff too. A heck of a lot of stuff for the age of 31 (soon to be 32 on 1/22 ๐ŸŽ‚ Yay Me ๐Ÿ’ƒ) I don’t have it all together and I definitely don’t have all the answers. 

If you were told, in your Christian walk is: all you have to do is “Believe in Jesus Christ, do good deeds and you’ll be waiting to enter in the kingdom of God”…. sorry ….. This Christian walk is a little more complex than that. 

For those who are hurting, struggling, lonely or just messed up in life …. there is a God who can see your through. 

Take it from me. 

I Christina, am a Christian. I pray daily, read and meditate on the word daily and attend Church every week …. but guess what?????? I am also one jacked up Chic with many struggles and flaws. I’ve made many mistakes and failures that I am not proud of. I will not flaunt my sins but I can honestly tell you, I know how it feels to relish in guilt, condemnation and shame. I don’t want the same for you. 

The enemy will mess with your mind and bring you into a dark place which will be hard to escape from. 

I want to say to you that God sees your failures as an opportunity for growth. He loves you and will never leave your side even when you are in the midst of your mess. 

God’s love is separate from our actions. He never stops loving us when we mess up. 

Do as Christ, love others when they mess up as well.

Love yourself. โค

Know that you are so flawed that Jesus died on the Cross for you because he loves you flaws and all.

The kind of Love that he has for us is sometimes unfathomable…. but he loves us so.

My fellow Christians …. you will mess up along the way … some may mess up more than others; but don’t be overtaken by your failures. 

Be overtaken by God’s grace, forgiveness and mercy.

To every reader, I love you all so very much. 

To every reader, God loves you all so very much. 

Be a good witness to others, show some skin (meaning some struggles or hurdles in life) to those in need and pray that they are drawn to Christ by your testimony.

Signed with Joy,

Joyfully Chrissy Lee ๐Ÿ’ซ๐ŸŒป

Prayer: God, I am a mess right now in life. I ask for your forgiveness and ask you to help me along the way. I will yield to your directions. I ask that you surround me with people that will help me stay on the right track in life. I want to do better Lord and I need your help.Now in closing, I ask that  you clothe me with the full Armour of God so I can withstand any temptation that may come my way. 

In Jesus name we pray. Amen.

To my fellow followers: I will be on a Social Media Fast beginning tomorrow and ending on March 20, 2017.

In my absence, I lovingly request that you spread God’s JOY & LOVE everywhere you go. You never know who is in need. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Writing the Pain Away ….

Growing up, I was forced to suppress the bad emotions. I didn’t grow up in an environment where expressing sadness or hurt was the norm.

I was raised to walk with my head held high, smiling, giving the world the impression that all was well. 

In reality, all was not well ….. There were times I was hurting . . . ๐Ÿ˜”

But 

The world could not EVER know that.

After speaking and sharing this part of my life with others, I learned I was not alone. 

Many others were raised with the following concept to smile during the storms of life or to keep it to yourself bottled up inside. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ™ƒ๐Ÿ™

In some ways this is unhealthy if not managed correctly.

๐Ÿšฉ Caution: Random Thought Time ๐ŸšฉListen – Although I blog about some deep stuff and share some aspects of self, I am very much private and do not like to give too much of self; but I have learned that sharing of self, my life and downfalls can be a testimony for another. ๐ŸšฉRandom Thought Time Ended ๐Ÿšฉ

Pain, Hurt, Suffering and Sadness are all natural. 

Talking about Pain, Hurt, Suffering and Sadness are natural too.

Last week, I was studying and came across the following scripture: 

โ€œI cannot keep from speaking. I must express my anguish. My bitter soul must complain.

Job 7:11 NLT

The scripture spoke loud in volumes to me. It speaks to Job 1. acknowledging his pain and 2. Speaking about it. Sometimes we belittle what we are going through. Pain, whether it’s physical, mental or emotional is natural but it doesn’t have to overtake you. 

If you are hurting, acknowledge it and acknowledge the source of it. 

If you are hurting, talk about your pain with God and you can also follow up with someone who you can trust and know is a safe place for your emotions. 

If you are hurting, learn to take authority over what you are experiencing 

And lastly, if you are hurting; learn to express. Emotions were made to flow … so let even the sad ones flow …. freely. 

Once Signed With Sorrow …. Now Signed with Joy,

Joyfully Chrissy Lee ๐Ÿ’ซ๐ŸŒป

Prayer: Lord, I thank you for all of my emotions including sadness and pain. Today I ask you to help me cope when I am not feeling good. Place people in my life that will help me get through during my times of need. May you help me get through the Pain that I feel. May you teach me to learn and grow through my Pain. Lord, I need you now and I know there is healing of my mind and emotions through you. May my mind be at Peace. 

In Jesus name, Amen. ๐Ÿ™

Above It All …

This past October, I boarded a #jetBlue flight from J.F.K. to Buffalo Niagara Airport. The trip was very much last minute but very much needed. 

I needed to be in a place where I was “above it all;” and I mean literally “above it all.” What better place to be in, then a comfy and clean airplane. โœˆ

๐Ÿ”˜ Now please note ….I am not purposely trying to plug jetBlue but I have and will always shout out any good company that promotes “Exceptional Customer Service.” ๐Ÿ”˜

BTW . .. I just rambled …. and I do tend to do that at times … but just stay with me as I wheel myself back in. lol ๐Ÿ™ƒโ˜บ

As I was saying before, I went off on a  tangent๐Ÿ˜ : I needed to be in a place where I was above “it” all. 

What was the “it?” 

Let me explain …. 

My life was on Turbo Mode. Everything was moving so fast and I was becoming inundated by some of the nonsense occurring in my life. I was trying to fix everything and trying to be everything for everyone. I was abusing myself emotionally and mentally. I was focusing on faults and flaws and in October 2016, I came to terms that I was putting myself in an unhealthy state of mind. 

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๐Ÿšฉ Note: If you can’t tell by my previous blogs; I am a work in progress and on an journey to obtaining “Inner #Peace .” I mean the real peace of God that surpasses all natural understanding.

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As I was in the air, riding through the clouds, I looked out the window, exhaled and thought “It feels so darn good to be above it all.” 

I stared down below. I couldn’t see what was below me because I was too far up but there was a lot of things below me:

My past struggles or mistakes 

Relationship Issues 

Financial Issues 

Stressors from Work 

Etc. Etc. Etc.

As I was up high, above it all …. I couldn’t focus on the things below me and out of my sight. I could only focus on what was before me. 

In this moment, God spoke to me.

“Yes Christina, you have flaws. Yes, you are going through some things. Everyone does, but you need to find #Joy in this moment and find the #Joyful things occurring in your life.

You need to be still and let me be God and work out some things for you.”

You see, everything boils down to perspective . I could have chosen to focus on the things below that I could not see or choose to focus on what was outside the small airplane window. 

Clouds …. โ˜โ˜๐ŸŒซโ›…โ›…

Beautiful Clouds, which to me, symbolized #Peace , #Beauty and #Calmness 

I made the conscious decision to change my perspective and focus on the beauty in my life.

I think we all need to do that …. look away from our faults. Look away from our weaknesses. Look away from the Stressors in life.

 We become what we focus on. 

What are you choosing to focus on?

Let’s choose today, to refocus our lives. Let’s choose to change our perspective on things. Let’s choose today, to not get distracted by the negatives but get attracted to the positives in our life because if we look real good; we have many positive things to Thank God for. 

Lastly, let’s choose today to live and dwell “above it all.”

Don’t go through life being against yourself. Go through life being your best and biggest supporter. 

Signed with Joy,

Joyfully Chrissy Lee ๐Ÿ’ซ๐ŸŒป 

 

His 1st Kiss (๐Ÿ’‹), His 1st Friend (๐Ÿ‘ซ), His 1st LOVE (๐Ÿ’›)

Sons are literally the absolute best! 

They love their mothers with all of their being and they are just so darn fun.

โš  Girls are okay too …. so Mother’s of Daughters, there is absolutely no shade thrown your way.โš 

I love the relationship I have with my son. I love our talks. I love how transparent he is with me. I love how silly he is. … to sum it up, I just love me some him. ๐Ÿ˜

Let me pause on gushing about my son and introduce the boy I’m talking about.

Drum Roll Please ๐ŸŽต๐ŸŽถโ™ฉ: Now introducing Jonathan Christian also known as J.C, an intelligent, silly, sports loving boy with such a compassionate heart. 

He aspires to be a Police Officer ๐Ÿ‘ฎ, a YouTube Star vlogging about building Legos and last but not least, an engineer. Yep … all those things and more.

This 10 Year old cool kid (12/1/2006 ๐ŸŽ‚) believes he can do anything he puts his mind to do and I (of course) am his biggest Cheerleader cheering him on. ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ (Go J.C.! Go J.C.! Go ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘) 

Isn’t that how it’s supposed to be? 

All mothers should consistently praise their children throughout their lives. We should be speaking and declaring positive words over them throughout the day until those things we speak come to pass. 

We should also teach them to speak positive words and make declarations over their own life. For instance, every night before J.C. goes to bed, he declares the following words out loud before he goes to sleep:

“I am a King. I am intelligent. I can do anything I put my mind to do. I am a leader. I am blessed and highly favored. Opportunities knock on my door. My mind is at peace and I will only have good dreams.” 

Short and sweet but strong in what he is speaking over his life.

As mothers, we are our children’s 1st Kiss. Within that kiss we convey the amount of love we have for them. We also convey nurture and how they can always find comfort in us. 

As mothers, we are our sons 1st Friend.

โ˜ก Now, I use the word friend with much caution. 

Growing up, one of my mother’s favorite line was “I’m NOT your friend, I am your mother!” What she wanted to stress is that she is the person that sets the rules and sets boundaries of what I can and cannot do. Mom or Mother is a title that demands respect. She wanted me to know that I could talk to her about anything as my mother and she would guide me the right way. 

So let’s rewind ๐Ÿ“ผ back to being our children’s 1st Friend. 

Your child should know that they can come to you for guidance in the same way that they may go to a friend. They can have fun with you and be themselves BUT as a parent, you must put boundaries, limits and structure in place; so wear the “friend hat” lightly. ๐ŸŽฉ

  1. Food for thought  (๐ŸŽ๐Ÿ’ญ) – If you treat your child like a friend, you may be sending the message that they are your peer and that they are your equal and “Whoa to my dear son that may think that he is my equal. ๐Ÿšซ”

Moral of the last couple of stanzas:

1. Naturally you are your child’s first friend …. first everything 

2. Walk that friendship line lightly ๐Ÿ˜‰

… and lastly. You are your child’s 1st love. โค

They dwelled in your stomach for 9 months, bonded with you 1st after entering the world and made their 1st connection with YOU. 

Isn’t that a beautiful thing? 

Have fun with your children! Relish in the things they are interested in. Be their biggest supporter and enJOY every smile they put on your face. The love of a parent is so overwhelming and indescribable. 

Signed with JOY,

Joyfully Chrissy Lee ๐ŸŒป

Dedicated to My Love – J.C. โค

Happy Birthday Jonathan Christian!!!! โค

Many have an image of Me … but few get the picture

Pictures say a lot, Right? What does this picture say? Is it a full representation of me? What image do you have of me?

Now look at yourself in the mirror.( ๐Ÿ‘€) Take a good look at self. What do you see? You may possibly see yourself differently then how others view you. Why is that?

What’s your image versus the picture that people obtain of you? What’s the image versus the picture that you present to others?

Image- A representation of the external form of a person.

Picture – A representation of anything upon a canvas, paper or other surface.

What external form do you present to the world?  What parts of you are hidden?

In reference to self since I am the one writing, to most; I present Joy.๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿค— I love life and everything in it. This is who I am to most people at arms length and it is who I am to people closest to me. It’s a safe portion of self to offer to the world.

For the select whom are not at arms length, I present a picture of Christina. That picture includes a complex individual with many layers before revealing my true self. (Blame it on Trust Issues ๐Ÿ˜”)

Very independent and self motivated; I sometimes dance to the beat of my own drum. ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐ŸŽผ๐ŸŽถโ™ฉ

We as people show an image of us to the world …. a safe image, because let’s face it there’s always a thought or concern of how people interpret you.

But

How about the picture that people have of us? Do they have the true raw picture of you?

I know I have posed many questions but my goal is to get you to meditate on what you present to the world versus the ones closest to you. Is there a difference? If so, why?

It’s been something I have been processing for the past couple of months. I’ve been compelled to expose more of self … but the question is to who?

Do we have people we can be safe with? People that we can we give our true unadulterated self to?

I admonish you to find at least one. Find comfort and peace in letting your hair down

…. and live life freely. In Peace & with #Joy; resting in the comfort that there is at least one that has a true portrait of who you really are.

Signed with JOY,

Joyfully Chrissy Lee

Special Thanks to #ErykahBadu โค

Your music always gets me in the right state of mind.

. . . For the busy people.

Sunset

I find so much beauty in sunsets. I’m fascinated by the beautiful portrait that it paints. I love how the sky becomes a blend of colors that range from mixtures of yellow, orange, blue and even pink. I try to catch as many sunsets as I can, and when I do; I become still in amazement of the masterpiece being painted before my eyes. I can go on and on about the beauty of the sky but I want to focus on the beauty of  “stillness.”

How many of you take a moment to just be still?

There are two levels to the “Stillness” that I am referring to.

Level A: You can find an example in the picture above. I find moments to just sit still in silence and decompress from a long day. I let my thoughts flow and I embrace the moment. I may plan out some things in my head, replay my day or make a list of what I have to do for the next day. I may think about food ๐Ÿ˜‹๐Ÿ‘…(mmmmmmm) and what I am going to cook later; re-evaluate some decisions I’ve made; ponder on some things to do with my son; etc. etc. etc. (You get the point ) The thought is to be still in the moment while your mind runs free ( if your busy-minded like me ๐Ÿค”) or maybe you can sit still and not think about anything.

For those of you reading this that are speed readers and just skimmed through the 1st level …… โš  SLOW DOWN AND READ LEVEL B. 

Level B: This level takes some discipline but the rewards far outweigh the effort required to be this kind of disciplined. Psalm 46:10a reads Be Still & Know That I AM GOD. This is a brief scripture that I have read and said aloud several times but it is something that I am now just learning to apply to my life. This scripture is simply a call for us to stop what we are doing and acknowledge that God . . .  is God. Now I know you may be scratching your head right now so allow me to elaborate. You may ask “What should I stop doing?” and I am sooooooooooo happy you asked that question.

STOP WORRYING, STOP STRESSING, STOP BEING ANXIOUS, STOP TALKING, STOP COMPLAINING, STOP TRYING TO FIX THINGS, JUST STOP WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING . . . .

           … & SURRENDER ALL YOUR CARES TO GOD. 

Now listen . . . .I know this is all easier said than done. When I was introduced to this scripture through one of my friends; I gave her the same look you are giving this screen.๐Ÿ˜’ I’m thinking the same thing you are thinking. Here were my thoughts:

Yeah  . . .  whatever . . . . being still is not going to get my bills paid. Being still is not going to heal me of ___________ (insert some bad health condition you have/had (God is a healer by the way) . Being still will not help me find love. Being still will not keep my boss from getting on my nerves. Being still don’t have my kids acting right. etc. etc. etc. You can insert whatever applies to you . . . . I am going to move on before I lose your attention. โ˜ LOL Stay with me guys and gals.

What if I told you being still and acknowledging God is the very answer you need. I’ll help you out by giving you 4 steps:

Step 1: ๐Ÿค Shut Up (Yes . . .  Some of you needed me to say that) & stop complaining about the issues in your life. (Ephesians 4:29)

Step 2: ๐Ÿ™ŒLet it Go – Relinquish your concerns of life/your issues. (Philippians 4:6)

Step 3: ๐Ÿ™Pray and have faith for what you prayed for. (Matthew 21:22)

Step 4: ๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ˜ชRest – Knowing that God WILL provide. (Philippians 4:19)

If you follow these steps (that is such a clichรฉ statement . . .  but it’s true) . . . . IF YOU FOLLOW THESE STEPS . . . . .with consistency . . .  You will have more peace in your life.

I kindly ask that you give God a chance. I kindly ask that you slow down in life.

I kindly ask that you try  . . .  just try to relinquish some . . . . just some of your worries.

I kindly ask YOU  . . . . to just STOP . . . . . AND

BE STILL.

SIGNED WITH JOY (In Stillness),

JOYFULLY CHRISSY LEE

A Loner . . . Until Nowย 

A loner

For as long as I can remember, I have always been a loner. I have always enjoyed and felt secure with “me time.” It was something I would (and still) look forward to after school, church or a long day at work. As a matter of fact, it was something I craved. As I reflect on why this is the case, I suspect it’s because I’ve always felt misunderstood or that most people didn’t get me. Growing up, I would spend hours alone . . .  just my thoughts and I ….. or my thoughts, music and I or my thoughts, a pen and a pad. ( You get the point.)

I think often, rationalize a bit too much and try to fit LIFE into a logical box. I enjoy pondering about almost anything and find some sort of comfort analyzing things before me. This is a good thing, but not all the time. You see . . . too much analysis and rationalization will send anyone’s mind into overload. Your mind will want everything to make sense and the reality is, everything does not or will not always make sense.
I questioned, why do I find solace when alone? Why is it something I crave? At one point in my life it actually was (past tense) a tool the enemy used during a period of depression. Now fast forward to 2016: my solitude is something God is using to speak to me. My solitude is something God is using to connect with me.

It has been such a fast paced year with one thing happening right after another. I have learned to take my “me time” and turn it into “Me & Godโ€™s Time” (BTW I know that’s improper English ๐Ÿ˜‰ …. for all those in the world of academia …. God & I…. Feel better now?!) LOL

I do allow my thoughts to flow. I do still think and ponder but I invite God into my thoughts. I’ve learned to be unselfish and spend time with him by reading his word (A.K.A. The Bible) and then meditating on it.

I ask you to try this. Try inviting God into your “me time” and I promise that you will be blessed by it. Matthew 6:33 reads “But seek 1st the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added unto YOU.”

Seek God …. let him be a part of your world, your space, your time and watch your life change in ways your mind can not even fathom.

Signed With JOY,

Joyfully Chrissy Lee 


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